One of my favourite songs is “Love Yourz”, by Jermaine Cole.

The message is fairly simple, but delivered in an effective way.

He claims, there’s no such thing as a life that’s better than yours.

J Cole, a successful rapper, documents his experiences in chasing his dreams, and the things he associated with a better life.

The key insight is the paradox of chasing conditional happiness.

Assuming a newer, faster, car will bring you the happiness or fulfillment you long for is a never-ending chase. If you can’t be content with what you currently have, what makes you think you’ll be content with what you are chasing?

If your level of fulfillment in life is contingent on something – anything, then you are making it a lot harder for yourself to live.

It’s important to not conflate the desire of improving your life with conditional happiness. These are two different ideas.

It’s okay to want to improve the quality of your life, provided you’re fulfilled with what you have currently.

By detaching your fulfillment from your circumstance, you’re far more likely to achieve the new quality of life, anyways.